Some signs of manipulation:
It always starts with guilt. If they can convince you to feel guilty for your actions (even when you’ve done nothing wrong), then they know you’ll be more willing to do what they say. P.s. guilt is not love
They try to make you believe they’re doing a better job of “loving you,” so that you’ll be more willing to set aside what you want in order to feel like you “love them just as much”.z
They can force their own insecurities on you. You should be conscious of their insecurities, but their struggles should not define the functionality of your relationship. Consideration is shown with love, while manipulation is ruled by guilt.
A manipulative individual may insist on you meeting and interacting in a physical space where they can exercise more dominance and control. This can be the manipulator’s office, home, car, or other spaces where he feels ownership and familiarity – and where you lack them.
Manipulators spend quite a bit of time making you feel as if you can’t think for yourself but also make you responsible for all of their emotions. If they feel sad, it’s probably because you made them feel that way. If they’re angry, well, you had better check yourself because you obviously did something wrong.
Its common in sales and negotiation where the manipulator puts pressure on you to make a decision before you’re ready. By applying tension and control onto you, it is hoped that you will “crack” and give in to the aggressor’s demands.
By constantly marginalizing, ridiculing, and dismissing you, they keep you off-balance and maintains their superiority. The aggressor deliberately fosters the impression that there’s always something wrong with you, and that no matter how hard you try, you are inadequate and will never be good enough. Significantly, the manipulator focuses on the negative without providing genuine and constructive solutions, or offering meaningful ways to help.
Source: Eden Strong – @yourtango