I think we have so many people out of wack because they don’t know and accept who they are. People don’t understand how vulnerable a growing brain is…. Teenagers are trying to raise children and they are subjected to seeing everything thinking they won’t be affected…they are affected.
They tell you, you need money to raise a kid etc but forget to say be emotionally & mentally sound…but for brown people we were doomed from the start. Think about our grandparents, great grandparents, and before that… we’ve always been subjected to growing up seeing slavery stuff, hate, abuse, etc. We’ve never been emotionally sound. The things a child sees, how they were raised, will affect the things they do, the way they think, the way they are etc. ….children are not resilient, they see and pick up on everything no matter how people try to fake it in front of them. A child picks up on that fake smile, that low self-esteem, how to be manipulated, and how to manipulate etc.
How we see our parents handle disputes or people we grew up around is how we ultimately learn to handle disputes, and most of the time it isn’t healthy…. & we don’t know it isn’t healthy because we unconsciously seek people who will comply with our behavior…. We will ultimately treat our significant other how our parents treat/treated each other. They say kids re-enact events through play, I think we re-enact events through LIFE. It is time to break the curse.
We are our parents, and attracted to people like our parents… We look for people to comply with our behavior, and ignore our insecurities. It’s not our fault, we are programed to unconsciously just mimic what we see… but it can be corrected if you want to….it’s just the work to reverse behavior.
How can people raise children to be sound individuals, individuals that will eventually be competent enough to take care of us, that will run the world if the people who raise them mindsets and emotions aren’t sound? They unknowing pass “it” (their own mindsets/emotion patterns) down from generation to generation. … They say disease is genetic, and I agree in a sense….but I think mindsets and emotion patterns…if not genetic, are surely “contagious” to a growing brain…and we get set in our ways. A person who rejects knowledge is a fool. We have the right to read and write, and we choose not to.
I believe you have to know, and accept who you are before you know who you will be. I think a person’s biggest blessing is in their life lesson…learn your lesson, let it go, break the curse, live right….and glow up All I can say to you is just let it go. Whatever negative emotion you breed, let it go. That secret you hide with shame, let it go. Emotions are meant to be felt in the present and let go. Let your E stay in motion lol.
We’ve learned to attach our emotions to peoples actions…detach. You are only responsible for yourself. Our experiences shape who we are, the choices we make, the things we say, everything. People make choices based on their own needs, and past experiences, we all have different experiences so we all handle things differently. People’s actions aren’t always because of you, sometimes it’s what a person hides, and has been through. Give them love, and give them time. Understand that people are who they are and we can’t MAKE them change. We can only accept them for who they are, try to understand them, and show the right direction to go in & know that their love for us is pure… actions are just off sometimes…OR let them go….
Our secrets destroy us. We try to hide things for fear of being rejected and/or criticized. It destroys love, but perfect unfailing love expels all fear. The opposite of love is indifference, not hate. So why don’t we try to understand each other? We let our emotions take over. Our secrets will forever haunt us until we let go. We must learn to communicate with one another instead of acting on impulse. Once you let “it” go, and learn not to attach your emotions to people’s actions you will create peace in your world. Fully accept and embrace who you are, and spread that beaYOUty with the world. Society has us so bent on looking at other people, we forget to look and care for ourselves.
On an airplane they say, put your oxygen mask on before helping anyone else….People make choices for them. Make choices for YOU. Take care of YOU. Do something that will make YOU happy. I don’t care if they told you you’re good at math, if you love ballet, do ballet. It’s okay to be selfish sometimes. Your only responsibility is yourself. Take time to learn who you are, what you want, what you love, accept yourself…flaws and all. Grow from them.
Work on you first, you can’t love a person more than you love yourself. It won’t work. One thing I hate is being compared; it creates jealousy and/or depression. Don’t compare yourself to me, don’t compare yourself to anyone. We ALL have flaws, who are we to judge? We ALL need each other. Why do we use people as a step ladder to get ahead? We will still need a teacher to teach our children, we will still need someone to sell us that car, we still need someone to build that house, and we will still go through that fast food drive thru line. We are all here for a purpose. Find out what it is. It’s not about money, that will come with living right.
Don’t be a bag lady and miss your bus. Let “it” go, and figure out what greatness you’re going to be. You better Dream ladies and gents! There are no limits, anything is possible with work & if we live right… it’s our God given right. Be like the ants, its time to work. It is time to break this curse brown people. The time is now.
With love,
C.Woods
#BeYOUtiful
